Do You Have an Inner Critic Berating You?

Give Yourself Permission to Show Up Fully In Your Life!

In my practice, I see many people in the office who struggle with depression and low self-esteem who also want to get “perfect” work evaluations and be liked by everyone.

They have the idea that keeping up the image of perfection on the outside will give them the validation and praise they need to feel good on the inside. But what happens is that this positive acknowledgement is being poured into a leaky cup.

And it’s never enough.

And the very concept of relying on outside sources to fuel inner confidence becomes dangerous because then any perceived criticism or rejection becomes one hundred times more harmful.

And then they start to feel like they’re falling apart.

You CAN quiet your inner critic!

One of the first tasks we work on in my Mindfulness groups is showing participants how to recognize their self-judgments and inner critic. I use concrete and creative techniques to teach members how to recognize these judgements as a story they’ve been telling themselves that’s untrue and unhelpful.

Then, we work on practical skills to challenge these judgements and rewrite the story as a more accurate and empowered one to create confidence and improve self-esteem so that they leave the office feeling better about themselves than when they walked through the door.

And they’ve let someone see behind the mask and help them, which is critical to the healing process.

How can you begin to notice and shift judgments to improve self-esteem?

There are three steps to helping improve your confidence by practicing a non-judgemental stance:

Notice self-judgments. Gently point out to yourself that statement like “I’m a failure” or “I’m an imposter” is a judgment and not a fact. Perhaps ask yourself: “Is that true or is it a judgment?” Just notice it and let it go. Don’t judge yourself for judging – this is a natural thing and you are learning how to change it.

Encourage yourself to track judgments. In my Mindfulness groups, we use a “judgment jar” and move a marble into the jar anytime we notice ourselves or each other using a judgment. Invite yourself and perhaps even your loved ones to count or track judgments to recognize how much they are coming up for you during the day. The very act of noticing is promoting Mindfulness and will automatically help you shift from judgemental to more aware and compassionate.

Restate your judgments in a factual way. When you evaluate people, emotions, or things as good or bad, restate them as facts when you repeat them back to yourself. For example, if you say “She looked so ridiculous at work today,” you might rephrase this as “She had a different style than I do.” Describe what you see without placing opinions or emotions in the observations.

Learning to take a look at ourselves and tune into our inner critic and learning how to be non-judgemental CAN be hard. And it takes time to learn how to be self-compassionate.

Start practicing today and begin to build up your non-judgemental and self-compassionate muscles because they are SO worth it… and you will believe that too! It is one of the reasons we begin this skill so early in our Mindfulness groups!

P.S. Groups are an amazing way to lean how to express oursevles and understand that we are not alone. The Mindfulness Matters Group will run on Tuesdays from 5:30pm t0 6:30pm beginning on July 11th and running through September 26th.

If this group looks like a good fit for you, contact me for more details.

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Understanding PTSD

For many  people, PTSD, or posttraumatic stress disorder, is a daily struggle. In fact, this is true for one out of every nine women. For others, it might be something that a loved one struggles with. Still, a great deal of people have a bit of unclarity as to what PTSD entails. The video above gives an overview of the common features we see in PTSD.

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“Beyond the Couch” Is Live!

It’s here!

Today, the “Beyond the Couch” podcast is live! I have been waiting with so much excitement to share this with you and the day has arrived!

You can listen to the first few episodes directly here or on my website. You can also listen on SoundCloud, Stitcher, and YouTube:

Be on the lookout for special announcement about how to listen, subscribe, rate, and review in iTunes in the coming days!

In the meantime, tune in to these episodes and get ready for the next on one on Thursday!

 

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Goddess Curriculum Group: LAST CHANCE!

This week is our last chance offer to enroll in our innovative support group for women grappling with the aftermaths of a trauma. If you have been in an overwhelming situation that you left you feeling helpless, suffered a major accident, or have a history of sexual/physical violence, talk to me to see how this group can help you feel “unstuck” and get your life back.

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The Goddess Curriculum: Empowerment through Living

Now enrolling for our women’s trauma group, The Goddess Curriculum: Empowerment through Living! Beginning October 18th, our integrative and holistic support group will meet weekly on Tuesday’s at 5:30pm to help women move past trauma and abuse to live fully empowered lives. flower-garden-250016_1920TRAUMA

Embracing the Goddess within begins with taking a look at our flyer below and contacting me for your initial screening.

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New Women’s Trauma Group Coming Soon!

We are so excited about our newest group to introduce to our community! This is an original group created with the unique needs of women living their life following trauma. An integrative supportive and didactic group for adult female survivors of trauma provides a comprehensive and holistic approach to re-empowering women to live their lives as they wish.

We explore the many impacts of trauma as well as healing approaches spanning many modalities and focusing on transformative empowerment in our daily lives. Small group size and interaction allows for comfort in sharing our experiences to heal while focusing on forward movement and changes in our lives. The group meets weekly and is time limited so that members can implement what is learned in the group into their own lives as well as receive feedback within the group while making changes in their lives.

The nature of this group requires a small size to ensure a comfortable, quality experience. Please contact me to register and ensure your spot.